Parents demand their 18-year-old daughter complete her chores despite her living in college dorms, then retaliate by blocking their home's Wi-Fi from all her devices: ‘I just can't help but feel bitter’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Oct 5, 2025 9:00 PM EDT

Remember when you were a kid? Your parents laid out a list of chores for you to complete before the end of the week, and if you didn't, you'd be grounded until they say you've repented enough for your sins.

Now, imagine that same process, but being an 18-year-old who doesn't live under the same roof as your parents anymore. How do you cope with the fact that they still try to command you to do things that do not concern you?

This is a control issue, and a case of expecting children to be housekeepers rather than children. The regular chore when you're living with your parents is not what I'm vilifying—I have a major issue with the parents in this next story who believe they can control their college-aged daughter just because they can.

They turned off the internet on her devices—ones that are necessary for her to complete her coursework. So, her parents decide to jeopardize her grades rather than accept that their daughter is not indebted to them in the way they believe. Scroll below to read the full story.

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  • "When I just don't have to time to finish all that work and my own school work, I get blamed."|
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  • "AITA, My parents are demanding that I still do all of my chores, even though I no longer live at home"

    So I (18F) am a college student who started living in the dorms. While I still sometimes go home to do laundry, I am rarely home. (I haven't been home in three weeks). The main reason I live in the dorms is because I don't yet have my license. (I have an
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  • auditory delay that makes it hard for me to react to any noise and it's something I've struggled with for my whole life.) My parents and I don't always see eye to eye and during my senior year we got into
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  • a major argument and they told me "Fine you wanna be an adult, you're living in the dorms, and let's see how you feel when you don't have us to clean up after you". They pay for
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  • my dorm, however most of my tuition is covered by scholarships, and I have full coverage all the way up until my doctorate.
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  • They chose to pay for dorm living (I told them I had a plan to make it to class but they wanted to teach me a lesson)
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  • So back to my story. When I first came home I noticed that the internet was blocked on my devices when I went to take a test.
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  • (This had only ever happened if I didn't do my chores or we got into an argument) When I asked them why it was blocked, they told me it was because I hadn't done my chores. These were my weekly chores (every week)
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  • Clean bathroom Yard work (clear the whole backyard of ANY leaves, sticks, rocks, (they are very strict about this)) Clean the downstairs cabinets
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  • Dust every surface of the house (including fans) Clean the laundry room (includes mopping, dusting, sweeping, etc) Empty the dishwasher and drainer
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  • Clean the kitchen (I have a brother who I used to share the bathroom with who lives at home) (He's also a freshman in college) and
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  • recently we got into an argument about the chores. Chores are due every Friday by 7pm, I get home at around 2 or 5pm, dinner is at 5:30-6pm.
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  • Meaning I have to do about three hours of work in an hour (family dinners are mandatory and I will be punished if I don't eat with them)
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  • I asked for an extension to 8:30 so I could actually do the chores, and they said it was the expectation of their support. I have no issues helping around the house, I really don't, but it
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  • hurts when I'm constantly told "I have to give up my dream of starting my own business because of you." Or "we have to love you, we don't have to support you financially, your
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  • friends won't be there if we cut you off and threw you out. Only family will, only we will" And when I just don't have to time to finish all that work and my own school work, I get
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  • blamed. I just can't help but feel bitter about the whole situation. I get they need help, I really do, but I guess I just wish they didn't blame me for all their problems just because I had the nerve to be born.
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  • And I got in trouble with them because I did the full dishwasher and went up to go do hw, and they yelled at me because I left some for my brother. When my older brother had a similar living situation, they didn't.
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  • make him do anything (of course he helped, but it wasn't a threat or shaming him for being born)
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  • *edit: I also have weekend assignments, so if I don't. do my chores, I don't get internet connection for the whole weekend. If I sleep in and miss church, I don't get internet connection.
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  • Since apparently I've been very confusing, here's the timeline of events. I go to school, then I go home on Fridays (last time was 3 weeks ago)
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  • So the whole time before that I've been going home to do laundry. Three weeks ago, my parents dropped me of off early because of a fight, and told me they "didn't want to see my face"
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  • And this week I was expected to come home. We were talking on the phone and I asked if I could stay this weekend because I didn't want to be a bother and had an in person exam this Friday.
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  • They got upset because they had expected me to come home and now they have to plan around me not being there to clean up. Now I've made this post.
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  • I should clarify I'm Hispanic and "just saying no" isn't usually an option. Like I've said before, I have no problem with doing the chores, it's how their language and attitudes towards any
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  • mistakes or wrenches ive apparently thrown in the plans they didn't tell me about.
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  • *Edit 2: I do want the people reading this to know I am very aware that I am extremely privileged to have parents who pay for me to live in the dorms. (no matter the reason). That fact is not lost on me.
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  • I'm so sorry if this is confusing, it's like 2am. and I've been up late working on a project due at 10 am. So my bad if my writing comes off as disjointed and messy.
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